Sunday Musings
While I was lying there this morning, deep in a cuddle with Fredster, I thought to myself.. at what point do we teach these little humans to judge human bodies?
He is completely oblivious to my physical make up right here at this moment, and in fact, every moment.
He does not know, rolls, scars, stretch marks, blemishes, cellulite, sagging, wibble wobble!
He does not look at me and think oh she’s lost/put on a few pounds.
All he sees & feels, I believe, is LOVE SAFETY WARMTH HOME
He loves me as I am.
My thought then was...when exactly do we go and F*%^ it all up for them???
Because clearly, we are the ones teaching them to then judge people based on....size, shape, colour, appearance.
It’s sad.
I’m going to try hard hard hard! to teach this guy not to do that.
It’s hard because I still do this myself.
And by that I mean; I congratulate people for “looking well” and the obligatory “oh you’ve lost weight!”
But that in itself is harmful!!
That is reinforcing the idea that you do not look good enough until you are a certain size or shape.
Instead of saying to someone “oh you look great (because they fit a norm) or you think that they don’t because of the opposite, we should say things like “isn’t she such a nice person, or aren’t they so considerate and caring.”
Compliment people on their listening skills, their ability to make you laugh, the way they make you feel good having been in their presence! Compliment someone who is open, real, and honest with you.
I’m going to try to have him think how good a person makes them feel when he is in their company.
Do they make me feel loved, safe, warm, and at home????
Well then use that as your judgment of someone rather than their appearance.
Because instinctually, that’s exactly what he is doing in this photo!
Thinking out loud
Have a lovely Sunday
